Many of us make a career out of being "right."  We go tooth and nail against others-especially those we really care about, oddly enough-in seeking to prove them wrong and ourselves as the "correct authority" on points of disagreement.  But we forget, rather conveniently I think, that, when it comes to getting it wrong from time to time, we are all in the same boat.  We know the old story about dying and going to heaven: When we get there, we'll be surprised at who we see and we'll ask God, "What are they doing here?" to which God will respond, "Funny, they were wondering the same thing about you."  As Martin Luther once put it, sin begins with thinking we are different than anyone else when it comes to being in the wrong and acting foolishly.  I wonder how I would actually treat others if they all looked just like me; if every time I said or did something I shouldn't to someone else I was actually doing it to myself.  But that's the hard lesson Jesus provides us: every time we think or act harmfully to someone else, we are indeed spiritually injuring ourselves.  So, the lesson here is pick your battles wisely for the "true enemy" is in your head.  Take a deep breath, relax and let go, choose patience over "having to be right" and remember, there's always room for one more in the boat of human regrets and flaws, as well as in heaven.  And the funny thing is, the boat only leaks when you're not in it.

 

Then Peter came and said to him, ‘Lord, if another member of the church sins against me, how often should I forgive? As many as seven times?’ Jesus said to him, ‘Not seven times, but, I tell you, seventy-seven times.

 ‘For this reason the kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who wished to settle accounts with his slaves. When he began the reckoning, one who owed him ten thousand talents was brought to him; and, as he could not pay, his lord ordered him to be sold, together with his wife and children and all his possessions, and payment to be made. So the slave fell on his knees before him, saying, “Have patience with me, and I will pay you everything.” And out of pity for him, the lord of that slave released him and forgave him the debt. But that same slave, as he went out, came upon one of his fellow-slaves who owed him a hundred denarii; and seizing him by the throat, he said, “Pay what you owe.” Then his fellow-slave fell down and pleaded with him, “Have patience with me, and I will pay you.” But he refused; then he went and threw him into prison until he should pay the debt. When his fellow-slaves saw what had happened, they were greatly distressed, and they went and reported to their lord all that had taken place. Then his lord summoned him and said to him, “You wicked slave! I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded with me. Should you not have had mercy on your fellow-slave, as I had mercy on you?” And in anger his lord handed him over to be tortured until he should pay his entire debt. So my heavenly Father will also do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother or sister from your heart.’

 

Welcome those who are weak in faith, but not for the purpose of quarrelling over opinions. Some believe in eating anything, while the weak eat only vegetables. Those who eat must not despise those who abstain, and those who abstain must not pass judgement on those who eat; for God has welcomed them. Who are you to pass judgement on servants of another? It is before their own lord that they stand or fall. And they will be upheld, for the Lord is able to make them stand.

Some judge one day to be better than another, while others judge all days to be alike. Let all be fully convinced in their own minds. Those who observe the day, observe it in honour of the Lord. Also those who eat, eat in honour of the Lord, since they give thanks to God; while those who abstain, abstain in honour of the Lord and give thanks to God.

We do not live to ourselves, and we do not die to ourselves. If we live, we live to the Lord, and if we die, we die to the Lord; so then, whether we live or whether we die, we are the Lord’s. For to this end Christ died and lived again, so that he might be Lord of both the dead and the living.

Why do you pass judgement on your brother or sister? Or you, why do you despise your brother or sister? For we will all stand before the judgement seat of God. For it is written,

‘As I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bow to me,
   and every tongue shall give praise to God.’
So then, each of us will be accountable to God.